Thursday, May 13, 2010


Pronunciation: \ə-ˈvȯi-dən(t)s\

Function: noun

Date: 14th century

1 obsolete a : an action of emptying, vacating, or clearing away b : outlet

2 : annulment

3 : an act or practice of avoiding or withdrawing from something

Avoidance is something I very guilty of-especially these past few months. I have always avoided confrontation in my life, it's just a part of my personality. I don't like conflict (hubby might disagree a bit :0) whether my own or someone else's. Currently, I am avoiding a multitude of things such as going to my Mom's grave, taking down pictures at my Mom and Dad's house, committing to a healtheir lifestyle, enforcing a schedule for R, difficult discussions with my father, asking certain people to mind their own business and show some respect for others, and facing the mortality of my Dad.
Being a counselor, one would think I would NOT avoid such things..WRONG. I know the negative consequences of such avoidance but still do it. Some of the avoiding is very purposeful, some is not, it just gets shoved to the back of my brain by virtue of all the other stuff going on. SO, I must find a way to deal with all the emotions and situations in my life in a positive, healthy matter and stop avoiding the potential conflicts and confrontations that come along with life's ups and downs.
Counselor, counsel thyself!!!!!!

1 comment:

kym said...

My dad died 22 years ago. I have never been to his grave. To me, he is not there. He is playing baseball with Jesus and the home team! He is laughing with his dad about all the funny things they did when they were on earth...I don't want to remember him dead. I don't think of it as avoidance, because I celebrate WHO he was by teaching my children all the good things he taught me, by telling them about him, by laughing out loud when I remember something...give yourself time.
You will do these things when you are ready...